How long does it take to get over...?

Wed, 09/20/2006 - 2:24AM by Mirna 5 Comments - 253 Views

I just finished a chat wit a friend, she lost her brother-in-law in a accident, a week ago. Her family is quite close-knit. She is back at work coz its exam time(she is my fellow-Lecturer).

She is still a wreck. I almost cried myself - I lost a loved-one 7months ago. So, the wounds just started bleeding when I empathised with her.

How long does it take to get over a loved-one that passed away? Or does homocide and accidental deaths affect you worse, becoz you ask more questions than you would if someone died becoz of a illness or natural causes?

yayita

I think you never get over it, what people do is mourn. Mournng has alot of steps begining with shock, denial, bargaining, guilt, anger, depression, resignation and acceptance.

People move down this line as a way of coping with loss and it happens naturally. I hope everything works out well....Take care.

9/20/06

LisaK

You will never get over it, but it does get easier. Like Yayi said you learn to accept it, but it still doesn't take away the pain. It is 10 years ago today that my mom passed away and I still feel that hole in my heart. Holidays, their b-day, the day they passed away will always bring a rush of emotions. You just need to figure out the best way for you to deal with your pain. There is no timeline when it comes to these feelings.

9/20/06

SasMonroe

Steve Irwin's tribute is playing on tv as im typing this up. The letter N on my keyboard has been magnified at least 3x by a tear.

Dealing with death is hard.. there's a saying in my language that goes ;- "Berat mata memandang lebih berat bahu memikul"

translated directly it's: Your eyes gets heavy watching it, its even heavier for the person who is carrying it on their shoulders.

not making any sense? haha.

ill try again:-

which also translates to: From the outside, looking in, things already appear difficult but its more difficult for the people who are actually going through it. In this case, the people who are going through the death of THEIR loved one.

but life has got to move on at one point or another. Smiling